Like a bulb splitting -- Bulelwa: a woman with a mission -- Bulelani: teach me how to be a man -- Family: Induku ayinamzi -- the rod destroys homes -- School: Verwoerd's ghost -- Community: the essence of humanity is 'our personhood' -- A development intervention: 'we will learn there, we will play there' -- The challenge: dealing with the legacy -- Where are they now?