Tricky kids : transforming conflict and freeing their potential

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Title:

Tricky kids : transforming conflict and freeing their potential

Author:

Fuller, Andrew.

ISBN:

9781876451769

Personal Author:

Fuller, Andrew.

Publication Information:

Sydney : Finch Publishing, c2007.

Physical Description:

viii, 216 p. : ill. ; 22 cm.

General Note:

"Includes a teachers' supplement"--p. [187]-207.

Contents:

Part I. A spotter's guide to tricky kids -- 1. Ten golden ideas for parenting tricky kids -- 2. The manipulators -- 3. The negotiators -- 4. The debaters -- 5. The competitors -- 6. The dare devils -- 7. The passive resisters -- Part II. The developmental stages of tricky kids -- 8. Infancy and preschool -- 9. Early to mid-primary school -- 10. Late primary school -- 11. Adolescence -- Part III. How to create change -- 12. The chemistry behind their moods -- 13. Eight important mood changers -- 14. Stop what you are doing (step 1) -- 15. Build belonging (step 2) -- 16. Create a culture of cooperation (step 3) -- 17. Start a new dance (step 4) -- 18. The dance (step 5) -- Part IV. Positive life habits -- 19. Thriving in the age of anxiety -- 20. Self-esteem skills -- 21. Self-awareness and awareness of others -- 22. Emotional wellbeing -- Part V. Tricky issues -- 23. When things get stuck -- 24. Violence and depression -- 25. From lying to honesty -- 26. Peer-group pressure -- 27. Perfectionism -- 28. Sexuality -- 29. Survival skills for parents -- Part VI. A supplement for the teachers of tricky kids.

Abstract:

A guide to parents and teachers on how to handle kids of all ages who are determined to get their own way and resist being held accountable. The author outlines their many ploys to deflect answering questions and their various methods of getting their own way. He provides strategies and solutions to these manipulative or evasive behaviours. A teacher's supplement has been included in the text to provide classroom guidance on this type of student.

Subject Term:

Problem children.

Problem children -- Behavior modification.

Problem children -- Education.

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From the book: The useless art of the provocative question... Yes, the art of the provocative question is a method used by many parents, and it is 100 percent guaranteed to cause an argument. Examples of provocative questions include: 'Have you got any homework?'; 'Have you cleaned your room?' (When it's clear they haven't); 'You don't think you are going out looking like that, do you?'; 'How many times do I have to tell you?'; 'What were you thinking?'; 'I suppose you can explain why your school report looks like this, can you?' If you want to get a tricky kid into defensive argument mode, ask a provocative question. It will entertain them and exasperate you, sparking off a debate that will last for hours. Turn provocative questions into definite, clear statements. Some examples are: 'Okay, it's homework time.'; 'Let's get the room cleaned up for dinner.'; 'I'd like to remind you of our agreement.'; 'Let's chat about how to help you with school.' Seven messages for parents who do too much... Remember, one day your child will need to cope without you; Children learn competence and confidence by tackling some things on their own; There are some situations in which your child can cope without your help; Help is not always helpful. Sometimes it robs people of the opportunity to work out their own way of doing things; The toughest trees grow in the windiest conditions. Making everything easy for your child won't help him or her to cope with hardship; Rarely or never do anything for a child that he or she can do for himself or herself; Things that are scarce are more valued. (While I'm not suggesting you distance yourself from your child, I am suggesting that if you are feeling undervalued or used, make your assistance more scarce). About the author: Andrew Fuller, clinical psychologist and family therapist, works to create resilience