pt. 1. Mars and Venus starting over : Mars and Venus starting over ; Why does it hurt so much? ; Emotional lag time ; Grieving the loss of love ; Getting unstuck ; Good endings make good beginnings ; The feeling better exercise ; Finding forgiveness ; Saying good-bye with love ; Letting go of hurt ; The 90-10 principle ; Processing our hot spots ; Always remember the love ; 101 ways to heal our hearts -- pt. 2. Starting over on Venus : Carrying a big list ; The new pressures of dating ; Date around, but don't sleep around ; Glorifying our past ; Staying stuck in grief ; The betrayal of loving again ; Sex and self-esteem ; Sex, obligation, and self-worth ; Expecting the earth to shake ; The movies vs. real life ; Attracting the wrong partner ; Overromanticizing ; Women seeking sensitive man ; Focusing on the negative ; Who needs a man? ; Women who do too much ; Taking care of others ; A woman's fear of intimacy ; My children need me ; But my children are jealous ; Acting out feelings rather than communicating ; Learning to be happy alone ; All or nothing -- pt. 3. Starting over on Mars : Man on the rebound ; Sex on the rebound ; Positive addictions ; Work, money, and love ; Love is not enough ; Learning from our mistakes ; We don't have to stop loving ; Unrequited love ; Taking responsibility to let go ; Soul mates are not perfect ; Being in a hurry ; Recognizing a soul mate ; Living out our fantasies ; Can't live with them and can't live without them ; The endless search ; Holding back ; Being vs. doing ; Bigger is better ; Finding balance ; Picking the right woman ; Learning to say good-bye ; Self-destructive tendencies ; Finding the power to provide.